daddylane's Cancer Blog
May 10, 2008
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It’s funny how things change so drastically so quickly and so permanently.
I wrote this blog, I mean started to write it, this afternoon.
Please forgive the frenetic manner…it’s grimey
Hey folks sorry for being incommunica-tito (punny word play; tito in tagolag means uncle)!
The days have been flying by and we are all keeping up with the changes as best we can.
Brief summary of the week; On Monday Dad went to the state NARFE meeting where Congressman VanHollen was the guest speaker (he came up to Daddy Lane and told him how much of an honor it was to have worked with him in the past and thanked Daddy Lane for his hard work in the community). Daddy Lane was asked to lead the pledge of allegiance and did so like the patriotic and honorable man that he is.
Thursday Daddy Lane led his local chapter NARFE meeting (remember he is the President and VERY active in promoting the rights of both retired and active Federal employees). He pulled it off with only a slight hitch (as he was introducing one of the State Assemblyman that were speaking he said the wrong name, DADDY!) and all present were blown away at how well he did considering the condition he is in.
That leads us to the painful part of this dialog. This is the slippery slope we have been praying to avoid. He has been hit hard by the medication and…
I wrote the above before I went out to run some errands. When I returned Daddy was leaving us.
He has passed.
Daddy Lane is gone from this plane. He is no longer in pain. He can chill out with his family now.
We are going to miss him like CRAZY!
His presence will always be with us in spirit yet he will be missed so so much in the physical. I write this in a daze not knowing how things will turn out in the long run with this deep loss. It’s been raining all day.
It was so hard to tell my children that they had lost their Pop-Pop. So hard! Bottomless gut wrenching sorrowful pain.
Annette was with him for his last breath, he inhaled deeply and then let it out with a sigh a heaving of his chest as to say “AAAHHHHH”.... relieved that the pain was no longer with him.
He was is so much pain family, friends and fellow bloggers. HIs pain. Such a wonderful, sweet, sensitive man. How he must have been in pain on many occasions and, and never spoken to us about it! His belly was big and shiny weighing less than 115.
I cry so hard for that. Yet also remember how he would shine so bright at the most opportune moments. You may just crack a little joke but he would indicate that he “GOT IT”. Even when he hadn’t eaten in week. Even when he was on medications strong enough to zonk out a whale. That’ my Pop’s, Jerry Lane, Daddy Lane, Old Man Element…the sensitive warrior.
With continued love to all of you that believe in and pursue your own path, keep moving at your own pace with positive intentions…
Timothy
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06.22.08 - 
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There are many accepted responses that fit here. Sympathies and so on, but the truth is the only thing I can tell you is this, you are not crying alone this morning….
The most powerful evidence of a life well lived is the love left in it’s path. Daddylane has a life well lived.
Prayers and tears to you today and for as long as they may help you.
Mac
This day is very quiet and seems to be resting. My
heart is heavy for you, Tim, and Annette, and Marian. You have my continued support in any (ANY) way that you need it. You were all there for him through tough times, keeping his life as normal and full of smiles as possible. Angels all of you!
Daddy Lane is at peace. He will be missed and never forgotten! What a wonderful person.
Kristin
Dear Lane Family,
I’m so sorry to hear of Jerry’s passing… but I have been really inspired by how he faced his illness. To the last, and in great discomfort, he continued to make a difference in the lives of his family, friends and community. What a wonderful way to live life – if only we all could have the same zest for living that Jerry had!
Our thoughts and prayers go out to you all during this time. Please let us know how we can help out!
-jm
Miller-Brennan Clan
Finally, you may rest in peace. You have lived life on your terms and will not be forgotten. I love you,
Brother Tom
The tears are flowing in TN for you all. We lift you up in our prayers to provide you comfort and peace. Peace in knowing that his pain has ended and comfort in knowing he is in heaven restored to a healthy body. I am sure that he is smiling down on you all and thanking you for your unwaivering love, devotion, and care. A guardian angel to guide and protect you through your days ahead.
Peace and love to each one of you,
Jaime (and Walt)
Not much I can say i’m not a woman of many words but I just wanted to let you know you all are in my thoughts.
Evy
Struggling to find the right words. What a special man you had. Remember him well, you will share the laughs agiain one day.
So many are loving and thinking of you.
I don’t know what to say. It is amazing how attached you can get to someone you have never met before. I am so thankful to have read about daddy lane. He is a true inspiration to live life, love your friends and family and give back to the community. What an amazing man. I hope to grow up like him. You and your family are in my thoughts.