daddylane's Cancer Blog
April 14, 2008
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Well todays theme is going to focus on the fact that Daddy Lane is crazy cute!
Pops reads the Degenerates Journal daily!
The man has style, class and a great combination of humor and seriousness that all seem to be in balance with….nature? I don’t really know what they may be in balance with but the guy is a real card. It was Gemma (whom is a survivor that we have come to love through this here blog site and an inspiration for fighting like a real Goddess! Check her out sometime if you can, {she is supported by us on the blog home page} she openly shares her experiences) that made a comment about a photo of Daddy Lane being cute.
Whether it is his fun, colorful choices in clothing, the red suspenders holding up his stylish chords or the mannerism in which he approaches a conversation- he just does it with style. He will happily tell you about a farmer that he and Mamma Lane met in the South of France that gifted them with a bottle of homemade burgundy after their passionate conversation about how they live off the land. He will enthusiastically passon a funny story about how his grandson David keeps repeating a word that he taught him “Welcome Mat”. Or is it those “short cuts” he takes. They may take a little longer but you are (potentially) glad because you saw the beautiful scenery (Momma Lane is snoozing away in the back seat). Daddy Lane is aglow knowing that he shared something special with you.
Backyard Bunny cute action shot!
The time I have spent here in Maryland over the last month has shown me something more than just the “cute” in everyday lay persons terminology. I have been able to see how he is currently approaching his final days here with us in a way that says “I’m really freakin’ cool!” and “I’m happy with the way I have lived my life, with the choices that I’ve made”. That kind of cute. The kind that makes people go out of their way to be connected. The kind that gives you goose bumps and a happy feeling in your tummy. The kind that says I’m glad to have had the chance to get to know you and see your growth, it has helped me with my path.
The special type of happiness, one that touches you in a way that is hard to describe, it just emotes a serenity. This is the cute that Daddy Lane is. He is now more than ever in a very grounded and wonderful space. The pain in his body is not to be forgotten, however there is a sense of understanding that he possesses that is difficult to fully explain. I’m just hoping to pass on to you all how his moments of clarity are, how deep and grounded they seem. How he will talk about end of life issues as if they are daily topics of conversation.
Last night we had a really intense conversation together with Momma Lane. Dad was honest about wanting to get information about his condition from the Hospice folks. He is curious about the more or less standard procedure of digression for people with late stage colon cancer. He may be feeling like his body is no longer capable of processing food. He may know something without really being able to put his finger on it but none-the-less understanding it internally. I suspect it may be a little of both. His body has been through a great deal. His spirit is strong yet he may be ready to let this traumatic and terrible disease take its ugly course. Now that he has been able to see his loved ones that mean the world to him. Hang out with brothers, buddies, nephews, grandkids and to record his legacy on video. He can say that he fought an honorable battle. Now that his family and friends have had their chance to say how much he has meant to them.
Its really hard to say.
I just want to give everybody a heads up that we are entering another stage in this tough process, they come with difficult truths. The truth is something that Daddy Lane feels very strongly about seeking and upholding. He has an analytical mind (yet another really, really cute personality trait). I ask him a fairly simple question and will get a very complex answer. He is always thinking and is not afraid to put an issue on the table to get hashed out.
Uncle Dan, Momma, Daddy! 2/08
Nancy B. (Annette’s college roommate and dear “step daughter” to our family) visited today. She brought with her an angel named Julia, her youngest (of 4!) whom made Pop-Pop beam as soon as they walked in the door. I was lucky enough to get it on video. Daddy Lane was so connected to her, making cute noises and talking in a manner that only uninhibited ears can comprehend. She responded by cooing and connecting with him, making faces right back. She is only several months old! So beautiful! I was lucky to also get to hold her and have her fall asleep in my arms, nothing in the world can compare to that!
BABY!
The overwhelmingly positive response regarding the blog is flattering and heart warming so thank you all for your love and guidance.
We will remain in touch as any changes occur. I hope to catch Dad soon to transcribe a little message from him soon.
With warmth and love!
Timothy
Daddy Lane is SUPER cute!, 
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06.22.08 - 
Thanks for your support -
Your last couple of blogs have been truly amazing Tim. So incredibly open and honest and truly capturing the spirit you all seem to be sharing. I continue to pray for the next chapter and am grateful that you all (visitors included) have had the time you’ve been able to share…a true blessing from the Lord above.
Love to all, Jaime I
Hello our lovely family! You can feel the love in this wonderful blog and you can see it in the pictures. Obviously Uncle Jerry, you have given a lot of love out in your life, because you Get what you give and you are getting LOTS of love. You are a wonderful soul and we are lucky to call you family. You are a testiment on how life should be lived.
From your mushy, lovey West coast family. I wish I could be there to give you a big hug and receive one of those great Uncle Jerry hugs!
Love,
Cindy, Lee and Landon XOXOXOXOXOXOX
PS Tim, you are amazing!
Dear, daer friends
I just want to say that I love you Jerry, as if you didn’t know it already. I love your hugs, your wit, your knowledge, your sense of humor, your forgiveness, your openness, your gratefulness, your love for life, your gentleness and of course your cuteness and the list could go on and on.
And you Tim, you are amazing. The blog you are making for your Dad is so well done, so well thought of so and well written. What a gift for Jerry and Marion to have you as a son and for us to have you as a friend.
With all my gratitude of having you all in my life.
Love
Chantal
A belated birthday wish for Tim who has done a yoeman’s job on this site. Hey Jerry. As always, your are in our thoughts.