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 daddylane's Cancer BlogMay 25, 2008
Ok folks its official. We have locked the date and times for the Daddy Lane party of the century. Put this on your calendar now. JUNE 21st Noon to Three at the North 4 Corners Recreational Center, Silver Spring MD. If we can make this out to be the party we hope than there will be a Daddy Lane slide show along with fun music and some yummy food. I will be sending out a mass e-mail, so e-mail me at ogelement@aol.com to get connected. We will formulate the pot-luck list soon so let me know what you want to bring and we should be able to tell you what is needed to see if the two shall meet….uh, does that make any sense? Annette and Jack just left with the magic happy makers, David and Josh. We went to the zoo yesterday and had a blast. The boys took their first subway ride (Davids eyes were as big as saucers upon seeing the train for the first time as it was coming out of the tunnel) and Josh kept waving to the Pandas. CUTE boys from a cute Mom’s who had the worlds cutest Daddy….. Later! 
May 21, 2008
The sun shines today, which is nice. It has been a difficult time for me, for us. Following the last blog Momma Lane and I went down to Richmond for a couple of days to spent quality time with Annette and family. We had a fun BBQ and were able to have a great time in the new Nelms home base (which is sure to be a great location for future family gatherings). Those nephews of mine are a great way to have joy fill the heart and to momentarily forget about some of the ensuing pain to be felt by the loss of Daddy Lane. We have a huge vacuum in the place that that amazing man occupied and with all of the day to day activities that his condition required there was not time to prepare for this degree of sorrow, sadness and depression. I miss him to the core of my being and have difficulty understanding how moving on will truly take place without having Daddy Lane around to smooth out ruffled feelings and help my internal compass to stay its course. I find comfort with having his jewelry and clothing to wear and drying my tears with one of (several dozen) hankies from his collection. More cute Daddy Lane dynamics to appreciate. I am working on the obituary and Momma Lane is getting the information for the rental of a Recreational center near by. We will keep you posted. These are tough times for all of us so lets continue to support one another and keep tight phone contact. Momma Lane especially will need to hear from us as time progress’, she seems to be moving into a more difficult space but at the same time has been less stressed with not having to see her love in constant pain. I will continue to keep updating information on the blog site as we learn more and make slow but sure progress with all that is needed to occur. With Love and sorrow, 
Uncle Dan (Momma’s little bro pictured here with Momma and Daddy Lane) will be visiting us this Thursday. We look forward to his support and big hugs! Thank you for keeping us in the loop. It seens like we all have lost your Daddylane. Let us know how things are going. As I said many times we are part of a family that has no bounds. ” We Need T0 Take Care OF Each Other” Dear Miriam, Timothy and all the ones I’ve not met; It’s Jenny Pierson, one of your dad’s AerVac companions at Walter Reed. Just heard from David Baker about Jerry’s passing and I am sending my sorrow and condolences to you for his loss. I have been thinking of him in recent weeks, perhaps as he died. Now I am focusing first on the strength it must have taken for him to come to our meeting in April, to give out hugs and his good will. Please keep me abreast of your party/memorial plans to celebrate his life. I would like to attend. You should have my email, but here it is again: jmpmerton@starpower.net. Wishing you good memories till then. JENNY
May 12, 2008
Here we are wearing Daddy Lane’s swell shirts… Lot’s of lovin! What a wonderful and positive outpour of sentiment and loving feedback we have received from all of our special family and friends. Annette was able to stay with us over the weekend and we cried and laughed together while we tried to make sense of where to go from here. Our father, husband and friend is gone and we will always have an emptiness where he once was. We will miss him so much. He loved us so much and supported us. He loved children, travel, wine, to play with words and photography. He would make it a point to talk to us about our lives and experiences and would then tell us about something that he found interesting and fun. 
This is the last photo of Daddy Land alive. He is saying goodbye to his son-in-law Jack Nelms. I sit here at the desk where I first began communicating to you all on this here blog. When I had just moved back here Daddy would wake me up with the sound of his coffee preparation (where a little ceramic cup always made it to Momma Lanes bedside). Then as time progressed it would be my seeking his company that woke me up and we would chill in the living/dining area. He would read his Wall Street Journal (Degenerates Journal in previous blogs to razz him and get a smile from ya’ll) and I’d start writing or adjusting photos for the blog. Periodically I would ask for his feedback of what he wanted the blog to say, ask for his help with spelling a word or just telling him what comments were being left on the blog. Morning patterns. 
Josh blows Pop-Pop one last goodbye kiss… very special moment! Then not too much later he would sleep in more not making the coffee. Still, we would be together once he woke up. His cute salt and pepper hair. I would see the top of his head as he sat in his chair reading the paper and then later just dozing off talking in his daze and making gestures of organizing paperwork air the air (I asked him about it and he would smile and say it was the darndest thing being in two different states of mind, sometimes folding clothes other times getting files together). 
Earlier in the day I asked Josh if he wanted to see Pop-Pop and he said yes. We went in and I got this shot just at the right time! So special, such a strong connection here! As he progressively got skinnier, his pain level kept shooting higher and higher, his ability to focus was compromised but he still had the drive to follow through with his goals. After it became apparent that time was limited Daddy made it a point to get letters out to the State Assemblymen, inviting them to his NARFE meeting to discuss the close of the most recent session… and Momma Lane points out, planning for the September meeting, even though he was stepping down as President. He knew that this was going to be his last contribution to a community and cause that he was deeply invested in. Last Tuesday he went to the meeting where he led in the Pledge on Allegience. That night he started Methadone. Wednesday he recovered from the exertion of the day before while adjusting to the more intense numbing medication as his grandsons flew around the house having fun. Thursday he slept till Noon. Wow, really out of character. When Joan, the Hospice Nurse, came to check up on him he was very disoriented and had difficulty getting his bearings. He was anxious that waking up so late made him miss his meeting. She left (after commenting to him that he seemed anxious and letting him know that it was earlier than he feared). He then gave Momma Lane high praise for being there for him and for her patience. He commented on the additional energy of the boys around the house said how special our family love is, how he felt like he’s been clear about that to us, how much we all mean to him. While getting ready to go to the meeting I was helping him put on his blazer and he collapsed. This was very intense and forever haunting. I was able to help him ease to his knees as his whole body shook. His eyes expressed the pain he felt. I conveyed how tough it was to have to say this to him, that he shouldn’t/couldn’t go, that it wasn’t a good idea, I couldn’t support him going out in the rain and extending himself like that. That immediately changed to “I’ll go to the car and get the wheelchair, YOU WAIT HERE!†When I got back from the car with the wheelchair, drying the rain off it, I looked up and saw him crawling in his hands and knees towards the door! I tried to slow his ass down and get him to follow the plan. We helped him into the chair and got him out the back porch, around the house and to the car. Daddy Lane led the meeting like a champ. He rocked it like nobodies business. He accomplished what he set out to do and was able to take notes and follow the information the Assemblymen were passing on to the retired posse that Daddy Lane loved so much working with! He followed through on his mission to pass on information to his fellow “union†members. He passed the torch as they voted for the next sessions leadership. He saw his community make their next move and voted right along with them. He witnessed the progress and was able to participate in something special that makes a difference in peoples lives. He has shown us how to love, live and die with grace and dignity. All the while respecting himself and others. Giving to the community, fighting for a worthy cause. Bonding with like minded folk. Showing his abilities as a bright and courageous man. Being open to their differences and OK with those differences to the extent that a good leader does. Daddy Lane was very tired after the meeting though. Literally giving it his ALL. He slept after the meeting and went to bed early that night. On Friday he interacted with his grandsons just before they got picked up by their Daddy Jack. He was very weak. He had trouble making it up to get to the bathroom. Hospice had a hospital bed delivered. I went to get supplies from Hospice and buy sheets for the bed. Daddy always liked to say how the trouble doesn’t start (for him) until 4 PM on Fridays. Well at 6PM when I got home and was washing the sheets for his new bed and the bed was being delivered and set up, Annette was spending quality time with Dad. He would come in and out of consciousness and smile or comment about how bright it seemed (the clouds opened for a second letting the sun shine through). At 7:45 he took a very deep breath, Annette being the only person in the room, and let out a heavy sigh, body releasing, muscles relaxing and it was over. His pain was relieved. We immediately began to gather around his body and absorb what had just taken place. We lit candles all over the room, creating a sacred space, and cleansed his body. We dressed him in the cute clothes he loved to wear and took photos. Nothing sick here people… just real loving, tender moments where we were saying goodbye to his physical vessel. We were documenting the relaxed expression on his face and how beautiful his hands looked. Getting in one last photo op. Eventually the Hospice nurse Joyce came to the house to pronounce him dead and shared some words with us. Then the Anatomy Gift folks came for Daddy Lanes body. They took him but I helped to move him onto the gurney. Now he will continue to contribute to his community. We have hope that his body will help science learn what happened to him and allow for the opportunity that other people not experience the level of pain that he did. We cried and cried. We laughed and laughed. That night and continuing on to this moment Momma Lane has been very stoic and grounded. She’s got to be so relieved that he is no longer suffering like he did. She had to witness it on a day to day basis. She saw the effect it had on his body. She saw him and helped him make it through his deep pain, one that no person should ever have to experience nor to witness a loved one experience. So in the ensuing days we mourn. We feel the emptiness and grief in a deep level regularly. Miss that man! We took cute photos on Sunday with all of us wearing Daddy Lanes cute pattern button down shirts. He had so much style we had to flip the script and show you all how the Lane’s take care of business. Enjoy! Remember that Momma Lane will need to hear from us a lot. She may not really feel the impact until later. None the less we rally behind one another and focus on the future and what it brings. Time’s a wastin! For anybody interested in making a donation to Montgomery Hospice in Daddy Lanes name (Gerald Lane for this occasion) in lieu of flowers we greatly appreciate it, that was Dads wish. Their address is 1355 Piccard Drive, Suite 100, Rockville MD. 20850. We will begin planning the memorial this week so any ideas will be appreciated. We are thinking June 21st since both Niki and Jasper will be available at that point. We would like to have it at a local recreation center (Four Corners, Silver Spring Maryland area) so it will be both kid and senior friendly. We want this to be a celebration. Music, Food, and lots of Fun folks so get the feedback to us and let up know if you are able to contribute. We will be needing to have a large white screen/sheet to project photos onto, a PA and will hash out the food and drinks as time progresses. It has been both an honor and a pleasure to have the opportunity to write about my father while facilitating a place for family and friends to know what’s been happening with Dad. I am grateful for all of the positive feedback I have gotten from you all (Dad especially!) and am glad that my humor was appreciated too. We plan on continuing to post blogs in order to remain in touch with loved ones and to pass information on. Thank You So Much! 
With Love and Respect, Timothy PS: 
This is the only time this walker was ever used, for Pop-Pop’s special boys to play on!
Posted on May 12, 2008 at 10:36:54 AM by Gerald Lane with help from Timothy (
 Rainy Daze?,  7 comments)
Tim, You are an amazing fellow and I am honored to share your love and devotion for your father. You have taken a reality, that might bring others to a dark and miserable place, and you have kicked open the windows and pulled back the curtains, you have flooded this place with light and love and hope. I feel sure that Daddylane told you this, but in case it never came up or he had trouble expressing it, let me say to you, as a father, you have done well and have made fathers prouder of sons by walking this path with such love and light. Well done, indeed. In closing I am compelled to add, from the great philosopher “George Thorogood”, Get a hair cut and get a real job…...........just funnin Mac Dear Friends and family of daddaylane. Words can not say how I feel on this day. So I will just send all the blessing to you and yours. Again thank you for sharing this part of your lives with us. We are blessed. Love Sherri I met Jerry about 2 weeks after his initial surgery when we both were attending a NARFE meeting being held in Virginia. He was not yet supposed to drive, so I picked him up at your home, and we rode the Metro to Virginia together. (He would not allow me to help him with his back pack – or anything else) and his athleticism stood him in good stead. By the end of the day we had become fast friends. On the trip home, he told me, among other things, how much he was looking forward to the birth of his daughter’s first child. I am so glad he survived long enough to love two more grandchildren. He is one of those truly good people who lived his life according to his ethical principles, and was apparently doing so until the moment of his demise – and after. He is a person who inspires love. The world was a richer place for his having been, and he leaves good memories with his special wife, the children whom they obviously raised beautifully, and his friends. Len and I wish you happy memories, and please know that he lives as long as all of us who knew and think about him, live. Love, Sandy Weiss What words to use… I have enjoyed sharing in your family’s lives. I looked forward to your posts, yall always make me smile! I am sorry for the loss of a wonderful man. I am glad to hear of the celebration you are planning. XOXOTimothy & Family, Tim and Lane family. WOW you are such an amazingly well spoken (written) man! I could feel the love, the mourning, the celebration of Daddy Lane’s life. I too am so happy he is not in pain anymore. He leaves an amazing legacy… I am only sorry i did not read the blog sooner, I would have donated instead of sending flowers. Take care, we love you all and we WILL keep in touch a LOT.. Love, Lee, Cindy and Landon Trent (Cindy Lane of course!) WE cry many tears for this brave loving & kind man our world has lost, see ya jerry kisses. victor ,valerie
May 10, 2008
We would like to express our deepest and most heartfelt gratitude for your love, support and kindness during this difficult time in our lives. We are so glad to have this forum to be able to share with Daddy Lane’s friends and family about his legacy. He is an inspiration to us all whether you knew him for years or recently fell upon this blog. Momma Lane points out how Pop-Pop served the community. She describes it as a thread that runs through his life and Annette says that she had just talked to Daddy Lane about that with him just yesterday. Annette spent a lot of quality time with him yesterday. They had some special time. Father Daughter time. Nothing can beat that. This information. The information of OUR loss. It is going to have its impact on OUR lives. Today is a sad day. Yesterday Daddy Lane was lucid invariably through all of the pain that he was in. When Jack came into the room with the boys to say goodbye Dad he lit up. When friends called upon him in the evening he was bright when possible. We plan on staying in touch with folks through this forum to let everyone know about the plans we will make for a fun ass spanky party to celebrate the LOVE and POSITIVITY of Daddy Lane. We want to celebrate people (when the time is right we will be able to do so, now we are full of sorrow and will morn our loss) so lets keep posting here and showing the other folks on this here blog the amazing community that thankfully Ms. Jill has gotten going for us. With lots of LOVE! PS we will post a surprise fun photo in the near future so stay posted folks. An extra special thanks to the people that have been patient with the “surge blogging” that went down yesterday if you actually read the blogs in the order that they were posted. If it was too hard for those that did not, check out the photos some time soon. Daddy Lane wouldn’t have it any other way.
Posted on May 10, 2008 at 11:06:31 AM by Gerald Lane with help from Timothy (
Thank You All!, 9 comments)
You all are very positive and I know that has to be hard at moments in this time . Blessing to all. Love to all Sherri Love to you all. Just want to add my thanks for the lessons you and Jerry taught about life, death, and love. I will hug my family and re-commit to hanging in through everything that comes our way. You guys are awesome. We will miss uncle Jerry so much. We have not seen him since Thanksgiving ‘07. He is one of those people that you want to know and have in your life. No one will ever forget him. He is at peace and out of pain, that is the best thing for him, although we all want him alive being out of pain is best for him. He is no longer suffering With Love, One of my last memories of Uncle Jerry is when he, and Tanta Babe came to Michigan with us. Uncle Jerry and I wrote in the sand with long sticks. From what my mother tells me he enjoyed spending time with me, and talked about it often with others. He took some great pictures of us that we still have. Our lives will never be the same without him. -Madison Navarro My heart goes out to all of you. Jerry was such a compassionate, generous, exemplary human being. And what a close, loving family he had, not to mention tons of good friends! He will not be forgotten. Keep strong, and love one another. Joyce Benson Heaven has a new Angle…rest in piece Jerry! I have not started grieving the loss of Uncle Jerry until today; and I am quite sad but SO moved by and grateful for my Lane family. Uncle Jerry has always been amazing for so many reasons and his death was no exception. The last time I was with Uncle Jerry, he taught me the proper way to open a champagne bottle. I had the opportunity to open one on Sunday morning, Mother’s Day. And it was the most beautiful, spiritually connected moment, when after sharing the story with my breakfast mates, we raised our glasses and toasted Jerry. I know he was smiling; I could feel it. I will forever think of him with every glass of champagne I sip or bottle I open. What a privilege it is for me to be able to have that piece of him for the rest of my days. He loved his wine and champagne and I loved him. Jerry was my longest tenure and best friend. We met in Hialeah, Florida where we grow up. We were in Boy Scouts together, recieved our Eagle designation together and went to Junior High School and high school at Miami Jackson High. Jerry graduated one year before me in 1956.
It’s funny how things change so drastically so quickly and so permanently. I wrote this blog, I mean started to write it, this afternoon. Please forgive the frenetic manner…it’s grimey Hey folks sorry for being incommunica-tito (punny word play; tito in tagolag means uncle)! The days have been flying by and we are all keeping up with the changes as best we can. Brief summary of the week; On Monday Dad went to the state NARFE meeting where Congressman VanHollen was the guest speaker (he came up to Daddy Lane and told him how much of an honor it was to have worked with him in the past and thanked Daddy Lane for his hard work in the community). Daddy Lane was asked to lead the pledge of allegiance and did so like the patriotic and honorable man that he is. 
Thursday Daddy Lane led his local chapter NARFE meeting (remember he is the President and VERY active in promoting the rights of both retired and active Federal employees). He pulled it off with only a slight hitch (as he was introducing one of the State Assemblyman that were speaking he said the wrong name, DADDY!) and all present were blown away at how well he did considering the condition he is in. That leads us to the painful part of this dialog. This is the slippery slope we have been praying to avoid. He has been hit hard by the medication and… I wrote the above before I went out to run some errands. When I returned Daddy was leaving us. He has passed. Daddy Lane is gone from this plane. He is no longer in pain. He can chill out with his family now. His presence will always be with us in spirit yet he will be missed so so much in the physical. I write this in a daze not knowing how things will turn out in the long run with this deep loss. It’s been raining all day. It was so hard to tell my children that they had lost their Pop-Pop. So hard! Bottomless gut wrenching sorrowful pain. Annette was with him for his last breath, he inhaled deeply and then let it out with a sigh a heaving of his chest as to say “AAAHHHHH”.... relieved that the pain was no longer with him. He was is so much pain family, friends and fellow bloggers. HIs pain. Such a wonderful, sweet, sensitive man. How he must have been in pain on many occasions and, and never spoken to us about it! His belly was big and shiny weighing less than 115. I cry so hard for that. Yet also remember how he would shine so bright at the most opportune moments. You may just crack a little joke but he would indicate that he “GOT IT”. Even when he hadn’t eaten in week. Even when he was on medications strong enough to zonk out a whale. That’ my Pop’s, Jerry Lane, Daddy Lane, Old Man Element…the sensitive warrior. With continued love to all of you that believe in and pursue your own path, keep moving at your own pace with positive intentions… Timothy
Posted on May 10, 2008 at 2:06:41 AM by Gerald Lane with help from Timothy (
Read This Last !, 8 comments)
There are many accepted responses that fit here. Sympathies and so on, but the truth is the only thing I can tell you is this, you are not crying alone this morning…. The most powerful evidence of a life well lived is the love left in it’s path. Daddylane has a life well lived. Prayers and tears to you today and for as long as they may help you. Mac This day is very quiet and seems to be resting. My Dear Lane Family, I’m so sorry to hear of Jerry’s passing… but I have been really inspired by how he faced his illness. To the last, and in great discomfort, he continued to make a difference in the lives of his family, friends and community. What a wonderful way to live life – if only we all could have the same zest for living that Jerry had! Our thoughts and prayers go out to you all during this time. Please let us know how we can help out! -jm Finally, you may rest in peace. You have lived life on your terms and will not be forgotten. I love you, Brother Tom The tears are flowing in TN for you all. We lift you up in our prayers to provide you comfort and peace. Peace in knowing that his pain has ended and comfort in knowing he is in heaven restored to a healthy body. I am sure that he is smiling down on you all and thanking you for your unwaivering love, devotion, and care. A guardian angel to guide and protect you through your days ahead. Not much I can say i’m not a woman of many words but I just wanted to let you know you all are in my thoughts. Struggling to find the right words. What a special man you had. Remember him well, you will share the laughs agiain one day. I don’t know what to say. It is amazing how attached you can get to someone you have never met before. I am so thankful to have read about daddy lane. He is a true inspiration to live life, love your friends and family and give back to the community. What an amazing man. I hope to grow up like him. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Now that we have the cute stuff out of the way, lets get “REAL” with each other on a whole different level. I wrote this blog two to three days ago, I can’t say right now…please try to understand, time has been a real difficult dynamic to track accurately these lat couple of, couple of, couple of….. I am not proud to have kept everyone waiting for so long so try to digest this blog even though I wrote eons ago. Thank you loved one’s! 5/7/08
 Daddy Lane loves his daughter and Grand Babies  He also loves to keep the bushes clipped  But nicely!  His Grand son’s like to share with him  Uh…...  No Comment  An amazing sight. True Love, Ya gotta work for it!  ...Don’t stop, Believin’!  Wow! Plaid, color “Swirl”... Say No More!
Posted on May 10, 2008 at 1:21:26 AM by Gerald Lane with help from Timothy (
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April 30, 2008
OK, we’re running with a music theme here, specifically a song by Bill Withers called “GrandMa’s Hands”. A very powerful and thought provoking tune about a child’s/man’s memories of his loved ones hands and how much they accomplished. So with no further delays, 
Daddy Lane celebrates with a healthy Brunch at the Woodside Deli! 
David and Jah-Jah having a good run after the 4 hour car ride. WEEEEEEE! 
Now we’re talkin! Time to Roll Dirty! 
Annette’s goin for it with David leading the way! 
Pop-Pop loves to hold and love these sunshine lasers! Yaaaaaayyyyyyy! 
Now it’s time to play! 
OK! So that will give you a good idea of what is going on here. Lots of fun and good vibrations. 
Pop Pop is surrounded by love while he shows lots of courage and volumes of integrity and compassion. He truly is emitting an amazing glow of positivity. Amazing to spend this time together and marinate in the wonderful glow of David and Josh…and Annette of course! Tim-o-Tayo 
Posted on April 30, 2008 at 9:08:41 PM by Gerald Lane with help from Timothy (
GrandPa's Hands, 5 comments)
Hey there! Wonderful pictures of such a handsome family. I wish I was there to each one of you a big squeeze. Grandpa is the cutest! Alrighty then…since nobody else is going to point this out, I will. I think I have discovered why daddylane is always smiling, mommalane looks kinda cute in the floral swim suit…smile. I’m just sayin. Wonderful photos. Thanks for sharing Mac ps I am guessing here, but does somebody have a barber phobia? Dude! get a razor. Just funnin. Dear Jerry, Marion and Tim I am Annette’s aunt-in-law (Jack’s aunt). We met briefly at Annette and Jack’s wedding. I am sorry I don’t know you better. I recently learned of your blog. It is amazing. What a celebration of life. You are in my thoughts every day.
April 29, 2008
David, Josh and Momma Annette are here with us! Dad has had a rough day before they showed up. We had a great lunch date with a gang of Dad’s friends at Woodside Deli which is a swell deli/restaraunt where we all ate well and Daddy Lane had A LOT of whipped cream on his yummy pancake. A little be-lated B-Day celebration for the Oma-ski. Photos will be posted in a later blog. Daddy Lane is up and playing with the boys to the degree that he can, a sign that he is feeling a fraction better. I’m heading to a meeting tonight with a NVC (Non-Violent Communication) group that meets in DC and am looking forward to having a posse to gain insight and positive support from/with. I really liked the NVC workshop I did back home at the Center For Spiritual Living and dig the approach that they have with expressing needs and being very direct about clear communication of boundaries/limits without blaming or using judgmental wording. With love and gratitude,
Posted on April 29, 2008 at 3:56:23 PM by Gerald Lane with help from Timothy (
Annette and the boys are here!, 2 comments)
Sounds like spring is in the air and Daddylane is digging it! What fun to play with little people. I am interested in the NVC workshop, sounds like good stuff Thanks for the upbeat, update Wow Daddylane IS Super cute. Its tough these things but he is lucky to have the support of a wonderful family. It looks like he is leaving quite a legacy of love. So he can know his fan base I am a 28 year old, Black girl from MD, PG County. He’ll be in my prayers.
April 25, 2008
Hey Now! Today is Momma Lanes birthday. She spoke with her brother Dan and sister Bobbe, learning about what is happening with them in Illinois. It was nice to hear their cheerful voices singing Happy Birthday on speakerphone and then to have them all reminiscing about their childhood and different memories they have about chores and family dynamics. Thank you for that opportunity you all, it was very cool to experience my Momma on a different level imagining what you all must have been like when you little rug rats were mowing the field or cleaning out the horse stalls together. I wonder what it must have been like being a youngster in that era and what the little Orth turkeys personalities must have been like. Momma Lane has been here for Daddy Lane through his struggle with colon cancer. It’s a well known fact. She was emotional last night when Daddy was having a great deal of stomach pain. She told him what a special person he is and how he has been such a trooper with all of the insane amounts of medication he’s has to take with all of the various medical procedures, never complaining and most likely making some type of wise crack. It’s both tough and beautiful to see. Yesterday Daddy Lane had a great afternoon hanging out with David M. They went off to the DMV to get an application for a handicap parking placard and then bought smoothies to share along with some beautiful flowers for Momma. Unfortunately dinner didn’t sit well with Pop’s and he was unable to eat the special smoked steak we had for Momma’s B-Day eve dinner. It is very troubling to see him want to participate in a special meal with a wine that he has enjoyed so very much over the years yet not capable of physically doing so. CANCER SUCKS! With his tummy gurgling and making all sorts of noise Mom and I hung out with him and held his hand as he went through the process of dealing with really bad pain. Along with the increased pain and subsequent pain medications he has been displaying some agitation in the form of restlessness. It seems that he is sleeping less during the day and wandering around looking to engage in some type of activity. Some times it will be sweeping, sometimes it will be getting up on the step stool at 5:30 AM to get the smoke alarm down. Woah Daddy! Let me hold the stool for you (you crazy old fart!) OK now I’m going back to bed if you are… Funny times along with the tough times seems to be a repeat theme here. With the love we emanate and the friendship and family connections we have it makes it all the less troubling. Thank you again and again to the people that have had sweet things to say and passed along your warmth, admiration and support. Timothy 
Mom and Dad enjoying the azaleas and a soul hug in the sun.
Posted on April 25, 2008 at 10:39:51 AM by Gerald Lane with help from Timothy (
Birthday for Momma Lane!, 2 comments)
I’m a few days behind on the blogs, but I’m lovin’ the photos. The tender moments of love and the wonderful shot of Daddy Lane smiling. That was especially nice to see. Happy Birthday Momma Lane, I hope it has been a beautiful day! Hi Mama and Papa Lane…it’s your adopted daughter here. I so enjoyed my visit with you from nearly two weeks ago…and Julia can’t stop talking about it either. Aunt Nancy is in town, and tonight we toasted Jerry with the Griffin wine he picked up in Oregon. Not surprisingly, the wine went down very smoothly, and yes, the bottle is empty! You are in my thoughts every day. Much love, Nancy
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Hi there Daddylane family. It sounds like you are going to celebrate the life of Dear Daddylane.
It is great you are including the rest of your extented family. I will celebrate a little on June 21 here in CA. Re-reading post that were shared with us. In this way I too can be part of the celebration.
Hug Sherri
Timmy,
I have been out of town and off the blogs for awhile. I was very sad to read the news about Daddy Lane. It really effected me.
Your family seems very special. The way everyone gathered to say goodbye, wow that blew me away. I was crying so hard after reading everything. I couldn’t sleep at all that night, it all just kind of haunted me.
I guess because I know I am facing the same thing eventually with stage 4 colon cancer with mets to the liver and lung. Daddy Lane was diagnosed a few months before me in 2005 and I have been watching the blog to see how he was doing.
All my sympathy
Donna
Hi all Daddylane family.
I know by now you have had your celebration of life of Daddylane and his wonderful family.
Let us know how things went and any pictures you
would like to share.
When we do not hear from you, we still keep all of you here in our hearts.
Hug
sherri
Hi here again.
I just read a blog for Carl Seal.
I just viewed his pictures.
I was so impressed that even though, the family were going through a lot .
you took the time to talk to some one new that was going through a hard time.
God Love you all.
sherri
Yes it is me again.
I know this may not be the time, but have you thought about a book telling the story of your wonderful Dad and the family that loves him?
I think it would be wonderful to share, as you have
with all of us,to share it with others.
It was just a thought.
Hug Sherri
Welcome Daddy Lane & your Wonderful Family,
I have just read your blogs and really enjoy all of your great family pictures. Wow, what an amazing family. You are an inspiration to me. Though, I have been fighting leukemia for 14 years now. you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I will be watching for your posts. God Bless, Patty